• Hayden Panettiere details a “deeply uncomfortable” dynamic with Connie Britton in her new memoir This Is Me: A Reckoning
• After the pilot, Panettiere’s billing shot up unexpectedly, going from fifth to nearly level with Britton
• Panettiere, then 23, feared the real-life rivalry would mirror their on-screen one
• She quietly tried to show deference to Britton on set — including during a symbolic mic-grab scene
• Britton has not publicly responded to the memoir’s revelations

Hayden Panettiere didn’t go into Nashville expecting to steal the spotlight — and when it started happening anyway, she was quietly terrified about what it might cost her relationship with Connie Britton.

In her debut memoir This Is Me: A Reckoning, released May 19, Panettiere opens up about the anxiety she carried throughout much of the show’s run — not about playing a villain, but about being perceived as one off-camera too.

“My character wasn’t intended to be the show’s star — not even close,” she wrote. “That honor went to Connie, whose Rayna Jaymes was in the twilight of her career, facing a dramatic turning point thanks to yours truly. Juliette wasn’t necessarily Rayna’s enemy, but she was the antagonist. I threatened Rayna’s career, but I was never supposed to outshine her. That was the whole point.”

Panettiere played Juliette Barnes, the brash young upstart of country music, opposite Britton’s more seasoned Rayna Jaymes on the ABC and CMT drama, which ran from 2012 to 2018. On paper, the dynamic was straightforward: established star, rising threat, built-in tension. But after the pilot aired, the lines between fiction and reality started to blur in ways Panettiere hadn’t anticipated.

“Unfortunately, after the pilot, it was clear that my billing had gone way up,” she recalled. “I went from maybe number five in terms of importance to nipping at Connie’s heels. I was deeply uncomfortable with this development.”

A 23-Year-Old Up Against a Three-Time Emmy Nominee

The age gap alone weighed on her. Panettiere was 23 at the time. Britton, now 59, was in her 40s, a three-time Emmy nominee with years of critically acclaimed work behind her — and, as Panettiere noted, a new mom.

“This should have been her time to shine,” Panettiere wrote, “and while it was in many respects, I was terrified of making Connie worry that I — not my character — was trying to compete with her.”

She even threw in a wry aside that will resonate with anyone who’s watched Hollywood’s long, uncomfortable history with women and age: “Women of a certain age in any entertainment sector can tell you that championing a twentysomething blond, bubblegum star over an older, more established veteran is a bad idea.”

It’s a sharp observation — and it makes the anxiety she describes feel less like personal insecurity and more like a reasonable read of the room.

The Mic Stand Moment That Said Everything

The detail that lands hardest is a small, almost invisible act of deference during a promotional shoot. The two women were directed to walk toward a mic stand and reach for it simultaneously — a visual shorthand for their characters’ rivalry. Panettiere made a choice in that moment that Britton may never have noticed.

“I always made sure to grab the mic under Connie’s hand, showing her I came in peace and with respect,” she wrote. “I don’t know if she noticed, but I did; I was not going to step on the toes of Rayna Jaymes or Connie Britton.”

It’s the kind of thing a 23-year-old does when she’s trying to navigate a situation that no one has given her a roadmap for — quietly, carefully, hoping it’s enough.

Panettiere had touched on the tension before, in a September 2025 interview with Entertainment Weekly, admitting she “kept apologizing” to Britton after their very first scene together. “I was just so passive-aggressive to her,” she said at the time, laughing at herself a little. “[I was] going, ‘I am so sorry!’ Because that was our first experience together, and I didn’t want to step on toes. Sometimes it gets real, very real, you know?”

The memoir expands on that moment with more emotional context — and ultimately, more warmth. Panettiere was careful to note that Britton was “amazing” and “so supportive,” and that the discomfort was rooted in her own fear, not in any documented coldness from her co-star. “It was difficult to play that sometimes, that competitiveness, where we were in opposition and against each other,” she wrote.

Britton’s rep had not responded to requests for comment at the time of publication.

The Nashville revelations are just one thread in what sounds like a remarkably candid book. The memoir also addresses Panettiere’s relationship with Heroes co-star Milo Ventimiglia — she was 18, he was 30 — as well as the domestic violence she survived in her relationship with ex Brian Hickerson. And in a passage that’s been circulating separately, she describes being escorted onto a yacht in the South of France at 18 by a trusted friend and placed into bed next to a “famous thirtysomething British singer-songwriter” — an incident she says left her feeling “like a call girl.”

It’s a lot to process. But the Nashville chapter, in its quietness, might be the one that sticks. A young woman, newly famous, trying to make herself smaller so someone else could feel bigger — and doing it one mic stand at a time.

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• Hayden Panettiere’s memoir This Is Me: A Reckoning is out now, detailing some of the darkest moments of her life
• She describes the devastating phone call from her father when her brother Jansen, 28, died in February 2023 from an undiagnosed heart condition
• The memoir also reveals an Oscar-winning actor exposed himself to her at a party when she was 19
• At 18, a trusted friend placed her in bed next to a famous British singer-songwriter on a yacht in the South of France
• Her estranged mother Lesley Vogel has publicly attacked the book, and Hayden says any hope of reconciliation now feels gone

Hayden Panettiere isn’t softening a single edge. Her memoir, This Is Me: A Reckoning, is out now, and in the weeks leading up to and since its release, the 36-year-old actress has been sharing some of the most painful, most private chapters of her life — the death of her brother, disturbing encounters with powerful men in Hollywood, a near-fatal childbirth, and a mother-daughter relationship that may be beyond repair. Taken together, it’s a portrait of a woman who has been through more than most people could imagine, and who is finally, on her own terms, telling the truth about all of it.

The Call That Changed Everything

The moment that cuts deepest in the memoir is the one Hayden has described as her brain going into autopilot. It was February 2023, and she was preparing for the Scream VI premiere when her phone rang. It was her dad. She let it go to voicemail. When he called again, she picked up.

He was hysterical, barely able to breathe. He told her that Jansen had missed a 9 AM appointment, that a friend had gone to check on him, and found him dead in a chair — a comforter pulled over him, like he’d simply fallen asleep. Then came the words Hayden wrote directly in the book: “Jansen’s dead. My boy is dead.”

She immediately started asking questions — was it suicide? A medical emergency? Foul play? Her mind raced through every possibility before the information began to settle. Then, still in that strange calm that can descend in moments of shock, she called her estranged mother, Lesley Vogel, who was at Venice Beach when she got the news.

The calm didn’t last. Hayden says she completely broke down afterward, crawling into bed and refusing to get out for the rest of the day. She has since shared that she developed agoraphobia in the wake of his death — and that she’s been “riddled with guilt” looking back at Jansen’s own struggles with substance abuse. “I, of all people, should have understood,” she told E! News. “But you can’t help somebody who doesn’t want to help themselves. It’s just a sad fact.”

Jansen Panettiere was 28 years old. He died from aortic valve complications and an undiagnosed enlarged heart. Hayden has said she credits her years in treatment for giving her the ability to function at all in those first hours after learning the news.

Hollywood’s Darker Side

The memoir doesn’t spare Hollywood either. Panettiere writes about two separate incidents involving powerful men that happened when she was still a teenager — experiences she has carried quietly for nearly two decades.

The first happened when she was 19, at a private party. She’d spent part of the evening talking with a group of men she described as being “in their forties and fifties,” and the atmosphere made her uncomfortable enough that she decided to leave. As she was putting on her coat, a man she describes as a “well-respected” Oscar-winning actor and director approached her with a strange claim — that he had a “big wad of gum on his pants.”

“I looked down and recoiled,” Panettiere wrote in an excerpt obtained by People. “This well-respected, award-winning actor’s testicles were hanging out from his unzipped fly.”

She left immediately — didn’t even stop to say goodbye to the friend she’d come with. She didn’t tell anyone what had happened, and at the time, she rationalized it away. “The gum on the pants, however, was a head-scratcher,” she wrote. “It hadn’t hurt me, and I was sure it was a drunken joke, but I’d never seen a grown man do something like that. I was shocked.” Her conclusion: “some older men had just grown up with no manners.”

She has since told The Hollywood Reporter that she chose not to name certain individuals in the book because many still work in the industry and naming them could create legal complications.

The second incident happened a year earlier, when she was 18. She was on a superyacht in the South of France — a celebrity-filled gathering — when a woman she considered a close, trusted friend led her down to a small room below deck. What came next still reads as a betrayal as much as it does a danger.

The friend, according to Panettiere’s account in the memoir, told her, “I want you to get in bed with him. He has a huge dick” — then left. The man in the bed was a “famous thirtysomething British singer-songwriter,” shirtless, propped up on pillows, the outline of his body visible beneath the sheets.

“‘Oh my God,’ I thought. ‘Is he naked under there?'” Hayden wrote.

Her survival instinct kicked in the second the door clicked shut. She turned to the man and told him directly: “Look… I don’t know what she said to you, but this is not going to happen.” She described the feeling of betrayal as being “kicked in the face” — the friend had “confided in me, pampered me and treated me like her best friend — then turned around and treated me like a call girl.”

On Jay Shetty’s On Purpose podcast, Panettiere reflected on how the situation was made worse by the fact that there was no escape — she was, quite literally, out to sea. “There was no jumping off and swimming away,” she said. “And there was nobody who was going to be empathetic to my situation. I realized that this was nothing new to them.”

A Mother Who Slammed the Door

Through all of this, one of the most complicated threads running through Hayden’s press tour has been her relationship — or what’s left of it — with her mother, Lesley Vogel.

Vogel served as Hayden’s manager from the time she landed her first professional job as a baby. When Panettiere turned 19, she asked her mother to step back from that role. “I don’t want us to work together anymore,” she told her. “I just want you to be my mom.” According to Hayden, Vogel replied, “You owe me,” and walked out of her trailer on the set of Heroes. From that point, the business relationship was gone — and, Hayden realized, so was her mother’s interest in a relationship at all.

Vogel has responded to the memoir publicly, accusing her daughter of leaving her with “20 years of trauma” and suggesting the book was written for publicity rather than healing. She’s also claimed that Hayden’s decision to come out as bisexual while promoting the book was a calculated PR move.

Panettiere called those claims “false” and addressed them directly in a conversation with Entertainment Tonight, saying she has always left “that door cracked open in case” reconciliation was possible — but that Vogel has “slammed that door pretty hard in my face.” She added that her mother “has very clearly prioritized herself,” and that even though she’s not surprised, she still finds it hard to comprehend.

Hayden’s ex, Brian Hickerson — with whom she had a turbulent relationship that included multiple domestic violence incidents before they eventually rebuilt a friendship — has been more blunt. He told TMZ that Vogel is “by far one of the worst people I’ve ever met in my life.”

Kaya, Childbirth, and What Comes Next

The memoir doesn’t skip over the physical trauma either. Panettiere nearly died giving birth to her daughter Kaya — now 11 — via C-section in 2014. She required seven blood transfusions and battled a serious infection. “I was sitting there getting the C-section, and I knew that I was knocking on death’s doorstep,” she told E! News. “I just had the most motherly moment though, where I said, ‘God, please let me hear my daughter cry. I just want to know that she is OK and if it’s my time to go, I’m OK with that.'”

She survived. But the years that followed — the depression, the alcoholism, the substance abuse — eventually led her to sign over custody of Kaya to her ex-fiancé, boxer Wladimir Klitschko. “The idea that anybody would think that I would just give away my child and be OK with it is heartbreaking,” she said. “It couldn’t be further from the truth.”

Today, she describes her bond with Kaya as “intense” and “incredible.” She travels as much as she can to see her, and FaceTimes often. And now, there’s a new wrinkle: Kaya, at 11, has started expressing interest in acting. Panettiere told E! News the calls have been “a nail biter.” She wants to support her daughter — but she also wants her to wait, to try other things, to have a college experience. “She still has the ability to fly under the radar,” Hayden said, “and once you give that up, you don’t get that back. Once you’re out there and you’re famous and known, there’s no getting your privacy back.”

She was introduced to the entertainment industry at 12 months old. When asked whether she would have chosen this life for herself if given the choice, she paused. “I will never know,” she said.

This Is Me: A Reckoning is available now wherever books are sold.

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• Hayden Panettiere, 36, says she expects her 11-year-old daughter Kaya to one day date an older man, just like she did
• Panettiere dated Heroes co-star Milo Ventimiglia, then 30, when she was just 18 — a nearly 12-year age gap
• She defends the relationship, saying her family approved and she had “lived so much life” by 18
• The revelations come ahead of her memoir, This Is Me: A Reckoning, out May 19
• Panettiere also opened up about being “groomed” as a child star and her struggles with substance abuse

Hayden Panettiere isn’t shying away from the headlines her past has generated — and she’s not exactly bracing for history to repeat itself, either. The 36-year-old actress says she’s fully “ready and prepared” for her daughter to one day date a significantly older man, just as she did when she fell for Milo Ventimiglia at 18.

“That’s hard. My daughter’s 11, so I’m trying to think of how I would feel,” Panettiere told Entertainment Weekly in an exclusive interview tied to her upcoming memoir, This Is Me: A Reckoning. “I’m sure she’s going to do exactly what Mommy did.”

Panettiere and Ventimiglia — now 48, and a father of two — met on the set of NBC’s Heroes in 2006, where she played cheerleader Claire and he played hospice nurse Peter. Their romance began in 2007, when she was 18 and he was 30, and lasted nearly two years before they called it quits in 2009. The nearly 12-year age gap drew plenty of scrutiny at the time, and it still does. But Panettiere has a clear-eyed answer for the critics.

“I was working with him all the time. My family knew him well,” she said. “At 18, I lived so much life that he almost couldn’t count me as being 18. So Milo and I, even though he was 30, had a lot more in common than people might think.”

She drew a firm line, though, between their situation and something genuinely concerning. “But if it was somebody that was inappropriate, if it came off inappropriate or was somebody that my parents were like, ‘No, this is just a creepy situation,’ then they never would’ve allowed it to happen.”

A Relationship She Thought Would Lead to Marriage

In a separate conversation with Us Weekly ahead of the book’s release, Panettiere revealed just how serious she was about Ventimiglia at the time. “Every relationship I’ve ever been in, I invested my whole self in,” she said. “I saw him as my partner and that it was going to hopefully keep going and evolving and lead to marriage.”

But there were cracks. One of them, she admits now, was telling. “It was a point of contention that I was unable to put the ‘I’ in front of ‘love you’ and at the time, I didn’t realize or understand why it made me feel so uncomfortable,” she said. “I could only say ‘love you’ in a casual way. Being older, he was much more aware of what that meant. And that said a lot.”

When the end finally came, it blindsided her completely. Ventimiglia broke up with her — and then immediately walked it back when he saw her reaction.

“One hundred percent it was only because I was over the toilet, hysterically crying,” she told Us Weekly. “It was like my world had crumbled. It was so out of left field, nothing that big or explosive had happened. Nothing had really gone wrong. Nobody cheated. I remember the look on his face being pure shock at how visceral and massive my negative reaction was, and he immediately took it back.”

They reconciled briefly, then split for good. Not long after, Panettiere met Ukrainian boxing champion Wladimir Klitschko. They dated starting in 2009, got engaged in 2013, welcomed daughter Kaya in 2014, and ultimately ended their on-again, off-again relationship in 2018 — a chapter she also explores in the book.

Ventimiglia, for his part, has moved on fully. He married model Jarah Mariano in 2023, welcomed their first daughter, Ke’ala, in January 2025, and the couple recently announced they’re expecting their second child.

“I Was Groomed”: Panettiere on Her Childhood in Hollywood

The memoir doesn’t just revisit her love life. In a conversation with The Hollywood Reporter, Panettiere opened up about something she’s rarely addressed so directly: what it actually felt like to grow up as a child star with no real say in the matter.

“I think it’s the way I was raised,” she said. “I was groomed. I was like a little soldier, and I always have been. No was never an option. It was just, ‘Here are your scenes, here’s your dialogue, memorize it, hit the marks, do what your director tells you to do.’ I took my marching orders.”

Panettiere first appeared on screen as an infant and had a regular TV role by age four. She’s been working ever since — and the cost of that, she says, eventually caught up with her.

“The pressure of that built and built and just exploded,” she said. “I started figuring out any way I could get through it. Sometimes they’ll say in treatment that, believe it or not, our addictions probably saved us at a certain point.”

She’s still working through what it all means. “That’s the thing — I will always wonder if I would have gravitated naturally towards acting if I had not been pushed into it,” she said. “But I see my daughter, at 11 years old, taking an interest.” This time, she says, she’s encouraging Kaya to explore it on her own terms.

All of it — the relationships, the childhood, the years she couldn’t fully speak about — is going into This Is Me: A Reckoning. “I’ve been in this industry for my entire life and there’ve been a lot of stories and preconceived ideas of who I am since I was about — that really started at 16 years old,” she told EW. “I get to tell people the truth. I get to tell them what really happened, and what really happened is generally more entertaining than anything that anyone could come up with.”

This Is Me: A Reckoning hits shelves May 19.

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• Brian Hickerson says he still dreams of marrying Hayden Panettiere, admitting “I miss Hayden every day”
• Hickerson revealed a chilling incident he wanted cut from her memoir — threatening to throw a phone at her after a countdown
• He pleaded no contest to felony domestic violence charges and served jail time, probation, and a five-year restraining order
• Panettiere’s memoir This Is Me: A Reckoning drops May 19 and covers the abusive relationship in detail
• Hickerson confirmed he spoke with Hayden the day before his interview — she was nervous about the book’s release

Brian Hickerson still wants to marry Hayden Panettiere. That’s the headline he delivered himself — unprompted, emotional, and seemingly unaware of how complicated that admission is coming from the man who was convicted of felony domestic violence against her.

Sitting down with TMZ’s Charlie Neff ahead of Panettiere’s upcoming memoir, This Is Me: A Reckoning, Hickerson opened up about the former couple’s relationship in a way that was by turns remorseful, self-aware, and, at moments, deeply unsettling. When asked if he ever thinks about marrying the former Nashville actress, he didn’t hesitate. “Yeah, of course,” he said. And when pushed on whether he thinks it could ever actually happen: “I hope so — she probably doesn’t think the same way.”

He followed that up with something more grounded. “I think that Hayden is one of the most talented people I’ve ever met in my life, and I would be an idiot not to walk away from her and let her flourish in her career. So, we probably wouldn’t be good together.” He also said, plainly, that she “absolutely” deserves better than him. “I miss Hayden every day,” he added.

The Incident He Wanted Left Out

The interview took a harder turn when Hickerson revealed the specific moment from their relationship he begged Panettiere not to include in the book. She included it anyway.

“There’s a story where I was drunk,” he recalled. “Hayden was standing across the room and I had a phone in my hand and I said, ‘I’ll give you 10 seconds to run as fast as you can before I throw it at you.'”

He paused on that. “Who wants to read something about themselves, right? But you gotta be vulnerable and I did it. I did it, so.”

Hickerson and Panettiere dated on and off from 2018 to 2022 — a relationship that became increasingly public for all the wrong reasons. He was arrested multiple times for domestic violence incidents against her. In April 2021, he pleaded no contest to two felony counts of injuring a spouse or girlfriend and was sentenced to 45 days in county jail, four years probation, 52 mandatory domestic violence classes, and a five-year restraining order barring him from going near her.

He addressed the 2020 arrest directly: “I had a lot to drink and I got physical with her. I got arrested. Spent the night in jail and, you know, that’s just what happens when you lay hands on women.” And on the broader pattern of abuse: “You never lay hands on a woman, bottom line.”

On how their relationship looks in the memoir, he didn’t try to spin it. “I think it speaks for itself. I got arrested for abusing her, and I wouldn’t blame her friends for being pissed off at me. I don’t really have much to say on that.”

Working on Himself — and Rooting for Her

Hickerson said he’s been doing the work — AA meetings (he mentioned being in a group with Shia LaBeouf), therapy, and sitting with the weight of what he did. He also spoke about what he sees as a gap in how domestic violence is addressed culturally. “My biggest thing about domestic violence is I don’t think it is taught early enough in life. Never in my life did I ever get taught what domestic violence was. Maybe if I did at an early age, maybe I wouldn’t have done what I did.” He thinks the memoir could be an important read specifically for abusers — not just survivors.

“Hayden’s book is incredible,” he said. “I think everyone should read it. The domestic violence stuff — my chapter — everybody should read it.”

He confirmed he spoke with Panettiere just the day before his TMZ interview. “The conversation was about the book — it’s her first book, who wouldn’t be nervous about it? The only thing I said to her, I was like, ‘Look, dude, you’ve got one of the craziest stories I’ve ever heard in my life, and when people read it, it’s going to be a hit.'”

As for where they stand: “Our relationship right now is just a mutual respect thing. She’ll always hold a special place in my heart, and I hope the same for her. But yeah, we’re just good buddies.” The former couple was photographed together at an airport back in March, which had fans speculating about a rekindling — but Hickerson’s framing suggests it’s more complicated than that. He went into “such a dark place” during their relationship, he said — “drugs, alcohol” — and he seems to know, at least intellectually, that the distance is probably right.

Panettiere, 36, has described writing about that chapter of her life as “brutal, traumatic, and emotional.” In an interview with Us Weekly, she said: “It was important for me to word that experience properly. It’s a very embarrassing subject. I’ve always seen myself as such a resilient and strong woman. The idea that I could allow something like this to happen to me blew my mind. It blew the minds of the people that knew me best.”

This Is Me: A Reckoning hits shelves May 19.

If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence, help is available. Call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233, text START to 88788, or visit thehotline.org.

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• Hayden Panettiere’s memoir This Is Me: A Reckoning drops May 19 and covers abuse, addiction, postpartum depression, and her sexuality
• Ex Brian Hickerson, who pleaded no contest to felony domestic violence charges, says the book was brutal to read — but necessary
• Panettiere publicly came out as bisexual ahead of the memoir’s release, saying she waited until 36 out of fear
• She also opens up about the “living nightmare” of relinquishing custody of daughter Kaya to ex Wladimir Klitschko
• The book recounts an alleged assault by a famous male actor when she was just 18

Hayden Panettiere has never really let us all the way in — until now. With her memoir This Is Me: A Reckoning hitting shelves on May 19, the 36-year-old actress is laying bare decades of pain, survival, and hard-won clarity: the abuse, the addiction, the postpartum depression, the custody heartbreak, and the parts of herself she kept hidden for far too long.

And in a genuinely unexpected twist, the man who abused her is telling people to read it too.

Brian Hickerson — Panettiere’s on-and-off boyfriend from 2018 to 2022, who was arrested multiple times on domestic violence charges and eventually pleaded no contest to felony counts — spoke ahead of the book’s release about what it was like to see his worst moments in print. He asked Hayden to leave one particular passage out. She didn’t.

The scene he wanted cut describes a drunken incident in which he allegedly threatened to hurl a phone at her, telling her: “I’ll give you 10 seconds to run as fast as you can before I throw it at you.”

“Who wants to read something about themselves like that?” Hickerson said — then caught himself. “I did it. I did it.”

That admission, uncomfortable and unvarnished, is exactly the kind of moment Hickerson says people like him need to be confronted with. He pushed the conversation beyond survivors, arguing that people accused of abuse should be forced to sit with these stories — that domestic violence education comes too late, and that he was never taught what abuse actually looked like growing up. In his view, Panettiere’s memoir could function as a warning manual for the very kind of person he became.

After his no contest plea, Hickerson was sentenced to jail time, placed on probation, and hit with a five-year restraining order keeping him away from Panettiere.

The Revelations That Go Beyond the Abuse

The memoir isn’t only about Hickerson. Not by a long stretch.

One of the book’s most alarming disclosures involves an incident Panettiere says happened when she was 18 — a friend lured her into a room where a famous male actor was waiting for her, naked, in bed. She recounted the story on the On Purpose with Jay Shetty podcast, saying: “Even though I felt I could make healthy decisions, safe decisions, I wasn’t capable of being fully aware of what was going on around me. It wasn’t until I found myself in predicaments that I realized my perspective completely shifted and I realized I was in danger. By the time I realized I was in danger, I was quite literally out to sea.”

She also opens up about her long battle with alcoholism and opioid addiction — a spiral she’s described previously but now contextualizes more fully. “I was on top of the world and I ruined it,” she told People in an earlier interview. “I think I hit rock bottom, but then there’s that trap door that opens.” She voluntarily entered inpatient treatment and underwent trauma therapy, and says she put serious work into rebuilding herself.

In an almost eerie parallel, Panettiere says her real-life unraveling began to mirror the arc of Juliette Barnes, the troubled country singer she was playing on Nashville at the time — a woman defined by addiction and self-destruction. Life and fiction blurring in the worst possible way.

She also reflects on her postpartum depression following the birth of her daughter Kaya in December 2014 — and how she didn’t immediately recognize what was happening to her. “I wish I knew about postpartum depression. I wish I knew to look out for it,” she’s said, explaining that she turned to alcohol to cope, which only deepened the damage.

The Custody Decision She Calls a ‘Living Nightmare’

Perhaps the most emotionally raw thread running through the memoir and its press tour is Panettiere’s account of relinquishing full custody of Kaya to her ex-fiancé, boxing legend Wladimir Klitschko, who lives in Ukraine. She made the custody agreement official in 2018, and the public reaction was brutal.

On the On Purpose podcast, she was direct about why she did it. She was heading into treatment. She needed to get better before she could be the mother Kaya deserved. “It became this horrible cycle for years of battling depression, anxiety, alcoholism, and substance abuse and me just trying to find my way out of this darkness,” she explained.

To Us Weekly, she called the decision a “living nightmare” — but also the right one. Klitschko, she said, is an “incredible father,” and by the time she’d stabilized enough to reconsider the arrangement, disrupting Kaya’s established life felt “unfair and selfish.”

“Signing those papers, the most heartbreaking thing I’ve ever, ever had to do in my life,” she said on Red Table Talk. “I was gonna go work on myself, I was gonna get better, and when I got better then things would change… but that didn’t happen.”

She describes herself as a “mother lion” and is clear-eyed about the gap between what she wanted and what she was able to give. Today, she says she has an “incredible” relationship with Kaya — FaceTime calls, visits when she can make them, and a daughter who speaks multiple languages, loves horseback riding, and, by her mother’s account, is “happy and healthy mentally, emotionally, physically, spiritually” and “no way feels abandoned.”

Coming Out at 36

Ahead of the memoir’s publication, Panettiere also publicly came out as bisexual in an interview with Us Weekly — something she says she’d held back for years out of fear.

“It was always the fear of not being perfect, and what my team was going to think about it, what the public’s opinion was going to be about it,” she said. “It was just never the right time, and it was a very difficult topic to articulate properly… It’s sad that I had to wait till I was 36 years old to share that part of me, but better late than never, right?”

For someone who became a household name as a child — on Heroes, on Nashville, in the Scream franchise — the weight of public perception has clearly shaped every disclosure, every silence, every carefully timed admission. This memoir, it seems, is her way of finally deciding she’s done waiting for the right time.

This Is Me: A Reckoning is out May 19.

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• Hayden Panettiere addressed claims she “abandoned” daughter Kaya, now 11, after signing over custody in 2018
• The actress opened up on the On Purpose with Jay Shetty podcast about battling addiction, anxiety, and postpartum depression
• Ex-fiancé Wladimir Klitschko requested Kaya live with him full-time in Ukraine when she was 2 years old
• Panettiere says she and Kaya have an “intense” and “incredible” bond and regularly FaceTime despite the distance
• She also cleared up the misconception that she was forced into treatment — insisting she was the one who sought help

Hayden Panettiere has had enough of the narrative. The Heroes and Nashville alum got emotional on Monday’s episode of the On Purpose with Jay Shetty podcast while addressing years of public speculation about her decision to sign over full custody of her daughter, Kaya, to ex-fiancé Wladimir Klitschko back in 2018 — a decision made at one of the darkest points of her life.

“The idea that anybody would think that I would just give away my child and be OK with it is heartbreaking,” the 36-year-old told host Jay Shetty. “It couldn’t be further from the truth.”

What followed was a rare, unflinching look at what Panettiere was privately going through while still trying to hold herself together publicly. “It became this horrible cycle for years of battling depression and anxiety and alcoholism and substance abuse and just me trying to find my way back,” she said. “I completely lost myself.”

How the Custody Decision Actually Happened

Panettiere and Klitschko — who dated on and off from 2009 before getting engaged in 2013 and welcoming Kaya in 2014 — split in August 2018. Around that time, as Hayden was struggling, Klitschko raised the idea of Kaya, then just 2 years old, coming to live with him full-time in Ukraine.

Her reaction? Pure instinct.

“I did not have a good reaction to it,” she admitted. “I went like mother lion. I would’ve burnt the world down for my child. So that was incredibly difficult.”

But she also knew, on some level, that she needed help — and that her daughter deserved stability she couldn’t offer in that moment. “‘I desperately need help,'” she recalled telling herself. “‘I know this is going to look terrible, but I cannot live like this anymore.'” Signing over custody, she has previously described, was the “most heartbreaking thing” she’s ever had to do — a “living nightmare” during one of the lowest periods of her life.

She also pushed back hard on a long-running misconception: that she had been forced into treatment by those around her. “The misconception is that I have been in the past forced into treatment when, in fact, I have been the one who sought it out,” she told Shetty directly.

Where Things Stand With Kaya Today

Now 11, Kaya has built what Panettiere describes as a genuinely beautiful life in Europe — learning five languages, taking up horseback riding, making friends, and becoming rooted in a world her mother ultimately chose not to uproot.

“So by the time I finally got healthy, I felt like it would have been unfair of me — and selfish of me — to try and pull her out and away from this life that she had created,” Panettiere said.

But distance hasn’t meant disconnection. Hayden says she travels as often as she can to see Kaya and that FaceTime has become its own kind of intimacy — the two “talk about really deep things,” she said. She described their bond as “intense” and “incredible,” and was clear about one thing: “In no way does she feel abandoned. I know in my heart that she feels supported.”

It’s a complicated story — one that doesn’t fit neatly into the “bad mom” box the internet tried to put her in. And Panettiere, clearly, is done letting that version stand unchallenged.

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• Hayden Panettiere, 36, describes being placed in bed with an “undressed” and “very famous” man at age 18 while on a boat
• She recounts the incident in her upcoming memoir, This Is Me: A Reckoning, out May 19
• Panettiere says she was led into the situation by a woman she deeply trusted and considered a protector
• The actress says she went into survival mode and fled the room — but had nowhere to go on the open water
• The memoir also covers her estranged relationship with her mother, her brother Jansen’s death, and her own struggles with substance abuse

Hayden Panettiere has never shied away from hard truths, but what she’s sharing ahead of her memoir’s release is something else entirely. The Nashville actress, 36, is describing a deeply unsettling incident from when she was 18 — a night on a boat that quickly turned frightening — and the woman she trusted who put her there.

Appearing on the May 11 episode of Jay Shetty’s On Purpose podcast, Panettiere opened up about a chapter from her upcoming memoir, This Is Me: A Reckoning, in which she recounts being escorted onto a boat, led downstairs into a small room, and placed into bed next to a man she did not choose to be with.

“She physically put me in the bed next to this undressed man who was very famous,” Panettiere told Shetty, describing the moment as “shocking.” The man, she said, behaved “like this was just an average day for him.”

Shetty framed the incident plainly during the interview: “You’re led to a room which has an older man in it and then basically told to perform sexual acts.”

Panettiere didn’t name the man, or the woman who brought her there. But she was clear about what made the betrayal cut so deep — it was someone she had genuinely relied on.

“It was led by somebody that I had grown to trust and see as a protector and somebody who had my back,” she said. “There was no hints of anything like that happening. So it took me by surprise.”

“That Lion in Me” — How She Fought Back

Panettiere said the moment her instincts kicked in, they kicked in hard.

“That lion in me, that fire in me … my hair stood on end and I became ferocious,” she recalled. “I was like, ‘This is not happening.'”

She fled the room and tried to find somewhere else on the boat to hide. But with open water all around her, her options were limited. “There was no jumping off and swimming away,” she said. “And there was nobody who was going to be empathetic to my situation. I realized that this was nothing new to them.”

Looking back now, Panettiere is clear-eyed about how young she actually was — even if she didn’t feel that way at the time.

“The fact that I was 18, even though I’d lived such a huge life and I thought I was oh so mature at 18 … scientifically, your frontal lobes don’t develop until we’re what, 25, 26?” she said. “So even though I felt like I could make healthy decisions, safe decisions, I wasn’t capable of being fully aware of what was going on around me.”

Her perspective, she said, “completely shifted” the moment she understood she was in danger. By then, she was quite literally out to sea.

“When you really find somebody that you trust, you hold on to them for dear life and you feel so lucky,” she added. “So to be betrayed like that is just an awful feeling.”

A Memoir That Holds Nothing Back

The boat incident is just one of many raw revelations in This Is Me: A Reckoning, which hits shelves May 19. Panettiere, who began modeling at eight months old and became a child star shortly after, has spent years in the public eye — and the book is her attempt to reckon with all of it on her own terms.

In a separate interview with Us Weekly, she got candid about her complicated and currently estranged relationship with her mother, Lesley Vogel, who also served as her manager. “Unfortunately, we don’t have a relationship right now,” Panettiere shared. “But that doesn’t mean that I don’t leave the door open for the opportunity to present itself one day.”

She described being scared of her mother growing up, and said the memoir is, in some ways, her way of finally confronting that dynamic — acknowledging she feared her honest feelings wouldn’t get “any positive reaction.”

The Heroes alum also writes about losing her younger brother Jansen, who struggled with addiction to crack and heroin. Panettiere, who has spoken openly about her own battles with substance abuse, said she did everything she could to help him — got him into treatment, maintained a standing appointment with his therapist, tried to reach him mentally. It wasn’t enough.

“I was willing to do anything to make sure that he was okay,” she said. “But you realize that you can’t love somebody out of a situation like that if they’re not ready or willing to heal.”

When the call came, she said, “it was like a punch in the gut, and I felt my mind just completely went blank.”

Even now, years later, the grief hasn’t softened the way she hoped it might. “I never saw myself having to live my life without him,” she said. “It’s still a struggle to combat the feeling of failure and guilt.”

This Is Me: A Reckoning is available for pre-order now ahead of its May 19 release.

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• Hayden Panettiere, 36, publicly came out as bisexual for the first time in an interview with Us Weekly.
• The revelation comes ahead of her memoir This Is Me: A Reckoning, out May 19 via Grand Central Publishing.
• Panettiere says she dated women from a very young age but kept it private due to paparazzi, industry pressure, and fear of being dismissed as following a trend.
• The memoir also covers childhood trauma, addiction, domestic abuse, the loss of her brother Jansen, and her complicated relationship with her mother.
• She says this is the first time she has ever said the word “bisexual” out loud about herself.

Hayden Panettiere has something she’s been waiting 36 years to say out loud.

“I’m comfortable to confidently say that yes, I am bisexual,” the Heroes and Nashville alum told Us Weekly in an interview published May 6. “I said it! This is the first time I got to say it out loud.”

The admission came as Panettiere opens up about her life in her upcoming memoir, This Is Me: A Reckoning, which drops May 19. The book took two years to write and covers, by her own description, everything — addiction, love, loss, abuse, and the very specific chaos of growing up famous. Her sexuality, she says, wasn’t something she planned to address when she sat down to write it. It just came up naturally, and she decided to go there.

“The first time it even crossed my mind to touch on this subject was while I was in the process of writing this book,” she said. “I did not know what I was going to feel comfortable touching on… and the fact that that did come up, I was like, ‘Why not?'”

Why She Waited So Long

Panettiere has known she was attracted to women since she was a child — she says she was “much more into women even as a child than I was men” — but the path to saying so publicly was long and full of obstacles, some external, some internal.

“It was either I was too young, and I was being forced to be perfect at all times. I was not encouraged to just be myself,” she explained. “Then came the period where it felt like people coming out, especially women, saying that they were bisexual or liked girls, was a fad. I was afraid that if I was honest, it was going to be like me jumping on the bandwagon.”

She didn’t want her truth dismissed as a trend. So she stayed quiet. And the longer she stayed quiet, the harder it got.

“And once again, it was always the fear of not being perfect, and what my team was going to think about it, what the public’s opinion was going to be about it,” she said. “It was a very difficult topic to articulate properly. I wanted to make sure that I really sat down and chose my words carefully.”

There was also the very practical reality of being one of the most photographed young women in Hollywood. Panettiere says she did date women — it started, she says, “at a very, very young age” — but the constant presence of paparazzi made those relationships feel impossible to protect.

“It was scary, though, because there were paparazzi always waiting for me outside, to follow me everywhere. I had very little privacy,” she said. “I have explored it, but because I hadn’t shared this with anybody, I didn’t really have the courage to throw myself fully emotionally into it. Because then if I did fall in love, that wasn’t something that I wanted to ever have to hide.”

She hasn’t fallen in love with a woman — yet. But the fear of having to conceal that love is what kept her from ever fully letting herself get there.

Looking back at her relationship with Heroes co-star Milo Ventimiglia, she can now see how her unspoken inner life was already creating distance. The two dated from 2007 to 2009, when she was 18 and he was 29. She says she was fully invested — “I saw him as my partner and that it was going to hopefully keep going and evolving and lead to marriage” — but there was one thing she could never bring herself to do.

“It was a point of contention that I was unable to put the ‘I’ in front of ‘love you,'” she reflected. “I could only say ‘love you’ in a casual way. Being older, he was much more aware of what that meant. And that said a lot.”

“It’s sad I had to wait until I was 36 years old to share that part of me,” she added. “But better late than never, right?”

A Memoir That Holds Nothing Back

Her sexuality is just one thread in what sounds like an extraordinarily raw book. This Is Me: A Reckoning covers ground that Panettiere has never publicly addressed — and some of it is genuinely alarming.

At 16, while doing press for Heroes, a representative gave her non-prescribed “happy pills” imported from Mexico. “I trusted her wholeheartedly,” she said. “I never in a million years thought to protect myself or question it.” That early introduction to substances would eventually spiral into a full-blown addiction that led to three separate stints in rehab.

The memoir also goes deep on her six seasons playing Juliette Barnes on Nashville — a character whose storylines about alcoholism, postpartum depression, and abandoning her child mirrored Panettiere’s own life with an almost surreal precision. She says the writers leaned into her real emotional range without anyone stopping to ask whether it was okay.

“They cared if the way it was affecting me had a negative impact on filming or on the show. But there was very little concern about my mental and emotional state,” she said. “I turned into Juliette Barnes. Juliette Barnes was me. I didn’t know where Hayden started and Juliette ended. Very few people took the time to come up to me and ask if I was OK. I don’t know that they wanted to know.”

She also writes about years of domestic abuse at the hands of ex Brian Hickerson — describing the experience of trying to leave an abusive relationship with a vividness that will resonate with anyone who has been there. “Getting an abusive person out of your life is like trying to rip a weed out that is so entangled into your life,” she said. “Every time you pull it out another weed pops back up. They always manage to find a way to slither back in, even if you’re an incredibly strong-willed person.” In 2020, Hickerson was charged with multiple domestic assault felonies and ultimately sentenced to 45 days in jail after pleading no contest to two felony counts of injuring a spouse or girlfriend. TMZ has reported the two were spotted together as recently as this past March, though sources say they are now just friends.

Her third and final rehab stint — eight months long — came after a doctor told her plainly that her body was shutting down. Her eyes had turned yellow from jaundice. She began researching liver transplants. “He told me, in no uncertain terms, that if you do not put a stop to this right now, your body’s not going to be able to recover,” she said.

That stay saved her life. And it was followed, cruelly, by one of the worst losses she’s ever faced.

The Loss She’s Still Processing

Panettiere’s younger brother, Jansen — who was also an actor — died after struggling with crack and heroin addiction. She had tried to get him into treatment, kept standing appointments with his therapist, did everything she could think of. It wasn’t enough.

“Of all the people that could have saved him from passing away, it should have been me,” she said. “But you realize that you can’t love somebody out of a situation like that if they’re not ready or willing to heal.”

Three years later, it still hits her the hardest of everything in the book. When she recorded the audiobook, that section broke her. “Every time it’s his anniversary of his death, or his birthday, it’s actually gotten more and more painful,” she said. “It’s still a struggle to combat the feeling of failure and guilt.”

Where She Is Now

The heaviness of everything she’s been through is real — but so is where she’s landed. Panettiere describes an “incredible” relationship with her ex-fiancé Wladimir Klitschko, the former heavyweight boxing champion, and their 11-year-old daughter Kaya, who lives in Europe. In 2018, Klitschko demanded Panettiere relinquish custody while she was struggling with addiction — a moment she calls “absolutely one of the worst days of my life.” But she says she understands it now.

“I’m so grateful for Wlad. We’re very close, and have had a deep friendship, along with a relationship, since I met him when I was 19,” she said. “And my daughter, she’s just an incredible gift. She’s otherworldly and so kind and so fierce and surrounded by good people. She’s just the best thing — all the best parts of me and Wlad.”

When Russia’s war against Ukraine broke out in 2022, Panettiere flew to be with Kaya as Klitschko and his brother Vitali fought on the front lines. She sat her daughter down and asked if she had any questions. Kaya had just one: “Why is Putin doing this?” Panettiere laughs that it was the one question she truly couldn’t answer.

As for her relationship with her mother, Lesley Vogel — who pushed her into the industry starting at 8 months old — Panettiere says there’s no relationship right now. The memoir is, in part, her way of finally having that conversation. “I was so scared of her that approaching her and being honest about my feelings was not going to get me any positive reaction,” she said. “This is my way of doing it.” She leaves the door open, though. Just barely.

She’s also dealing with the fact that a stalker who spent years terrorizing her — sending threats, flooding her phone, forcing her to cancel public appearances — was recently released from prison after serving 30 months. “He’s now out,” she said simply. “That’s just a daunting… that’s the reality of the situation.”

Through all of it, Panettiere sounds like someone who has earned the right to finally just be herself — in every sense. Coming out as bisexual is one piece of that. A big one, but still just one piece.

“I think people will be surprised by what they learn,” she said of the memoir.

This Is Me: A Reckoning is out May 19.

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